Once you decide to divorce or find out your spouse is divorcing you, everything will change. It can be hard to know what to do or where to start, especially if it comes as a surprise.
Yet, you need to buckle down and start somewhere. Once you focus on an area, you can work on it then move on to the next, thereby advancing little by little. Here are three questions to help you:
Where are you going to live?
Working out where to live post-divorce can come later. First, you need to decide where you will live during the divorce. Can you still live under the same roof as your spouse? What about if things get worse? You may want to tap up family or friends to be ready to receive you for a few nights at least. Or you may want to agree with your spouse that one of you moves out and you pay for it with marital funds.
What about the kids?
If things are likely to get heated between you and your spouse your children do not want to be around to see it. Again, calling friends and family to warn them you may need their help with the children is wise.
Have you got enough money to see you through the divorce?
Some spouses act in an underhand manner during divorce and try to cut the other person’s access to funds off. While moving vast sums of money out of the marital account could land you in trouble, make sure you have funds set aside.
Then you need to look to the future. You need to get help to find out what divorce entails and what options you have.